Monday, August 18, 2008

Enneagram Test - Type 6, The Questioner

"I am affectionate and skeptical"

Questioners are responsible, trustworthy, and value loyalty to family, friends, groups, and causes. Their personalities range broadly from reserved and timid to outspoken and confrontative. 

How to Get Along with Me 

Be direct and clear. 
Listen to me carefully. 
Don't judge me for my anxiety. 
Work things through with me. 
Reassure me that everything is OK between us. 
Laugh and make jokes with me. 
Gently push me toward new experiences. 
Try not to overreact to my overreacting. 

What I Like About Being a SIX 
being committed and faithful to family and friends 
being responsible and hardworking 
being compassionate toward others 
having intellect and wit 
being a nonconformist 
confronting danger bravely 
being direct and assertive 

What's Hard About Being a SIX
the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind 
procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself 
fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of 
exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger 
wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right 
being too critical of myself when I haven't lived up to my expectations 

SIXes as Children Often
are friendly, likable, and dependable, and/or sarcastic, bossy, and stubborn 
are anxious and hypervigilant; anticipate danger 
form a team of "us against them" with a best friend or parent 
look to groups or authorities to protect them and/or question authority and rebel 
are neglected or abused, come from unpredictable or alcoholic families, and/or take on the fearfulness of an overly anxious parent 

SIXes as Parents 

are often loving, nurturing, and have a strong sense of duty 
are sometimes reluctant to give their children independence 
worry more than most that their children will get hurt 
sometimes have trouble saying no and setting boundaries

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